@DameKraft did a fantastic thread today about how a lot of trans people may be concluding that they are cisgender because their incongruence is not strong enough to feel like they have a right to identify as transgender. Firstly: YES YOU ARE TRANS ENOUGH.
Cherry Blossom @DameKraft the only stable definition of being trans is "not identifying with your assigned gender a birth" and I think that definition includes a hell of a lot of people who currently call themselves cis and are worried about appropriating being trans.
Cherry Blossom @DameKraft no one consented to their assigned gender at birth, and certainly not everyone grows into that assignment and accepts it.
Cherry Blossom @DameKraft people want to draw borders and boundaries around the risks they face for how they appear, but that's attempting to build communities based on trauma bonding and is not sustainable.
Cherry Blossom @DameKraft Do you look at your assigned gender at birth and say "fuck that". Then hey, you don't have to be cis. Doesn't matter how you dress, what pronouns you use, if you have body dysphoria or not, it's that you don't consent to your assigned gender at birth. Welcome to the club.
Secondly, there is no such thing as “appropriating” being trans. If you do not feel a strong connection to your assigned gender, you can call yourself trans! You aren’t offending anyone (at least, anyone whose opinion matters).
I know how easy it is to fall into this trap, because before my own wakeup call I also was afraid to ever mention my feelings around my gender. I thought it would be insensitive or appropriative of “actual” trans people. It’s laughable when I think of that now.
Skye 
@P2N2222A @DameKraft @memecannot I don't consider myself cis, but I'm still reluctant to call myself trans because I'm afraid of appropriating it.
Gambito @AnonymousAmbi @P2N2222A @DameKraft @memecannot "Culture appropriation" only relates to culture. You can't culturally appropriate being trans, because transness is not a culture
Cherry Blossom @DameKraft @AnonymousAmbi @P2N2222A @memecannot yeah, maybe "erasing" would have been a better way to put it.
It doesn’t matter if the world still thinks you’re cis, you know who you are, the people who know you know who you are, and that isn’t invalidated simply because you haven’t “transgressed” cisgender norms.
Dark Siren Sally @darksirensally @DameKraft I find I worry most about this as a nonbinary person. Nonbinary by definition is a trans identity, but it doesn't feel that way because I passed as cisgender (and can still do so, as physical transition isn't a thing I consider strictly necessary for me rn) for so long.
Cherry Blossom @DameKraft @darksirensally "passing" to me is based on the patriarchy requiring gender to be guessed at a distance and I don't consent to that, which is difficult for me to live with so I just give the world what I call "my apparition" that "passes" as a woman but I certainly don't ID with it.
Ada Powers did a fantastic thread a few years back about how mixed pronouns work, which partly forked off into a conversation on gender expression across the cis/trans divide. I’ve extracted the relevant pieces below, but the entire thread is worth exploring.
